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Self-Confidence and the Six Fears


“You Can Do It if You Believe You Can!”

We have all heard this in one form or fashion over the years. Some decide they do believe it and go on to success. Others say they believe and they are going to get right on it

…just… as soon as… fill in the blank of whatever excuses we have all heard and made over the years.

Telling me or someone else you believe you can achieve does you exactly no good, other than it is probably good for you to hear the words coming out of your own mouth.

Self-Confidence and the Skeptic

If you have all this self-confidence you claim to have, why are you not stepping up?

To address a different segment of readers, if you know you have no self-confidence do you know why? Why is it you see folks you know are not as smart as you succeed?

I think I figured it out.

It occurs to me that folks with no self-confidence are their own worst skeptics. Somewhere along the line someone consistently doubted your ability to succeed. Even when you did, the huffy commentator opined, it was lucky you did not kill yourself or embarrass yourself and the family to no end.

What is it you are afraid of?

I don’t exclude myself from this question. I could not figure out what would paralyze me and wash from my brain all those so wonderful plans of action I would come up with while in the throes of being just as miserable at work as a hapless canine who just missed making it into the building door by inches during one of those hard lake effect snow storms I read about.

Seriously, I have made it home and been so tired but also frustrated because I could not keep my eyes open long enough to do anything and anyways, I could not remember all the pieces of the plan of action.

I did figure it out.

Six Basic Fears

The six basic fears are:

  1. The fear of Poverty
  2. The fear of Old Age
  3. The fear of Criticism
  4. The fear of the Loss of Love of Someone
  5. The fear of Ill Health
  6. The fear of Death

Why is it if you are so afraid of being in poverty you don’t just strike out and work until the sun comes up, drive to work, stagger back in the front door and work until the sun comes up again and do it until you are rich?

I have known two fellows who did that and they got it right in a year or less and started living the boo yee tuh ful life of Riley.

So, why not you? I haven’t a clue except to say that in my case I really did hate looking stupid to other people. Poverty was not the fear that was holding me back, it was the fear of criticism. Then something my sweet wife said got into my brain and worked its way down into the basement where those little @#$%ers Stephen King is always jawing about work away from the light of day.

She said, “What do you care what they say or think. They don’t pay our bills. It is just like arguing with a nut on the road. It resolves nothing and puts no money in your pocket.”

I paraphrased, but she was right.

Guard Your Mind; Only Accept Advice From Those Qualified To Give It1

“oh, that’ll never work,” says a friend. At which point you meekly surrender all your dreams and go back to whatever it is that feeds you but makes you miserable.

That sounds more like a drug habit than a job now as I look at what I just wrote. Anyhooo….

Look where you friend who just offered you his grand and oh, so sophisticated opinion on your dream lives!

Most likely he ain’t living your dream, either. Why would you take advice or correction from another loser? I don’t mean that to be harsh; I just mean why would you take advice on what you want to do from someone who is incapable of doing what you want to do?

Find Your Fear

Work you way through what it is you are really afraid of so that you can put it in context. Once you figure out that fulfilling your dreams of building a healthy business online will relieve you of most of what you are afraid of you just might catch on fire and start putting in the work.

What We Are Working on Now

We are showing people how to earn more cash back on top of what they earn now, often taking their cash back rewards into the double digits. Folks are walking away from 7 figure incomes and getting on board with us.

Did I mention it is free?

Go here to check it out now.







Tim Singleton

1 Stay tuned for an in depth article on why guarding your mind is so important.

Network Marketing Tips

Reviewing My Network Marketing Tips

Being in business for yourself gives you more opportunities to enjoy life.
Being in business for yourself gives you more opportunities to enjoy life.

Recently, I went through and reviewed all1 the tips I had collected on how to succeed at online business, network and affiliate marketing. I thought I would do a review, tossing the ones that no longer apply.

Follows are the ones that stay. I thought about explicitly outlining the ones I tossed and why, but decided against it because a large number of folks seem predisposed to focus on what they don’t want.

  • Point #1:  First of all, use your own products and services. While I do agree that it does not matter really what you are selling I think it does matter if you don’t use what you are selling. So…Use your own products and services. Make your own products and services your first go to point when trying to solve a problem. It is easier to sell what you personally use because you are doing less selling and more sharing.
  • Point #2: Visualize, constantly, what your life is going to be like when you achieve your goals. FEEL what it will be like when you realize you are retired, that the distributors who have become your friends are now able to send their kids to good schools because YOU introduced them to your opportunity. Think what it would be like to have enough interest income coming in that you don’t really have to do anything, anymore.
  • Point #3 Constantly be looking for ways to connect with new people. I don’t mean selling them something, I mean widening your network so that your ‘lead with value’ efforts are seen by more folks.
  • Point #4 I have come to realize there is so much to learn and so many ways to make money that I have to be in a constant learn mode. If that sounds exhausting to you, get over it. Control your emotions and make the idea of constantly learning new ways to generate income streams fun. This is the career you have chosen. Now, put on your big boy pants and realize that you need to treat your efforts at expanding your knowledge the same way folks in a doctoral program treat their education.
  • Point #5 You have to learn to control your emotions and turn them into power. I know that sounds kind of mystical, but it is not. It is also not explainable in a paragraph.
  • Point #6 Listen to, associate with, and learn from people who have what you want. Let their belief grow your belief. Do this explicitly even if it is rough at first. Do it everyday and one day you will wake up and your belief will be as powerful as theirs and THAT is a good day.
  • Point #7 Work every day. I try to make myself work 40 hours a week on my business. Not always possible as I still have a job. The more hours you put in, the faster you can reclaim the 40 you are now giving to someone else.
  • Point #8 Stop selling so hard and start looking for the folks who are looking for you. If someone does not want to be a business owner, don’t try to convince them to want to be one. It is like trying to push a rope uphill from the other end or trying to bathe a herd of cats. Yes, I know. I kind of repeated myself but it bears repeating. I will probably say it again next week…or even tomorrow.
  • Point #9 With all the uproar in society lately, you hear a lot of talk about speaking truth to power. Speak to people’s pain. Show them the pain reliever. This is what makes people buy. Learning to speak to people’s pain gives you power in this business.
  • Point #10 Focus on helping those who have already displayed self-starting traits. You cannot coax the lazy to success.
  • Point #11  Placing your sign ups under others may be seen as abandonment. Sounds good on paper, but see #10 again.
  • Point #12 While you do need to learn to prospect, make sure you spend at least as much time learning to market. It is so much nicer to find out someone has signed up on a regular basis from a blog post or short video you created than it is to chase people at the supermarket and in your family. Over 99% fail in that approach.
  • Point #13 Get to know folks before you try to recruit them or ‘show them the plan.’ Someone you just met has no reason to trust you. Why would they suddenly go into business with you?

Obvious Truth #1 This is not really what I call a point, but I wanted to include it here anyway. Always tell the truth. If it runs them off up front, how do you think they will react when they find out you lied to them?

  • Point #14 You are helping people to a better future. Don’t plead with people to join your business. There is no one that you just have to recruit in order to be successful.

Attraction Marketing System

You Don’t Need Any One Specific Person In Order To Succeed

I once wanted one of the authors of a tool I formerly used to create articles for distribution to join my business. I had done business with him so I naively thought he would consider doing business with me.

We had a number of long exchanges via email and he was excited about the business to which I had introduced him. Since I was new in the business, this fellow thought he would be slick and do a run around and join my mentor instead. This kind of upset me because I just knew that this guy would be a powerhouse.

As it turns out, some years later my mentor stopped using this fellows product because he gutted it in such a way that it affected the way Google treated the articles. My mentor declared he was no longer using the product.

Moral of the Story: You don’t need anyone to join your business. What you need is to learn to market so folks want to do business with you.

  • Point #15 If you are bad at names like me, write them down. Remembering someone’s name is only polite and they will appreciate it.
  • Point #16 Are you a dour fellow? Folks like Eeyore don’t do well in network or affiliate marketing. I have seen folks start with, “I realize you probably are not interested…: Don’t be an Eeyore.

  • Point #17    90% of folks you interact with will not join your plan. Make sure to have other things they can use to succeed in whatever business they do choose. If they say no to you, they are involved elsewhere. They will almost always say yes to efforts to help them in their current business. Offer to help them succeed.
  • Point #18 Don’t prospect in a thrift store or in the line at the power company paying your power bill (I mean, come on. Would you be in line if you had paid it on time? This is not a criticism, I have been there. I am just saying that odds are folks in those places have got to get somewhere else before they are ready for your message of how to build a business.)
  • Point #19 Don’t be a thief. Trying to build your business by scavenging distributors from others’ businesses is just not gentlemanly. If you think living by the law of the jungle is the way to go, you don’t understand this business and will soon fall prey to your own tactics.

Be Supportive of Others

Support folks in other businesses. If they give up on where they are, they may turn to you of their own will. Otherwise, don’t mess with another man’s money.

In Conclusion

Network Marketing Tips #21: Your Companies Business Plan Is Not YOUR Business Plan

This is by no means an exhaustive or complete list of things that will help your business, but these have helped me when I wanted to quit. You need to remember that in many cases, your lack of success,,, if that is where you are right now… is often not your fault. Many networking companies do not have what I consider formal training programs for their distributors.

Most networking companies live by the adage that 99% of distributors fail to make money, but 16% of the folks they recruit or sign up as distributors will remain as customers of their products and services.

If their plan is built on a 99% failure rate, do you think maybe you need another plan?

If you want to learn out to get the best training available, that has a proven track record of developing 5 and 6 figure monthly incomes for the folks who go through it, go here.

Best Regards,






Tim Singleton

Notes: 1 Obviously, not all tips were included here, but these seemed to be particularly relevant based on some discussions of late. -Tim


MLSP Has Entirely Too Many Training Videos – MLM Training

MLSP Has Entirely Too Many Training Videos

Loving our time at the beach. Slow beach days are some of the best!
Loving our time at the beach. Slow beach days are some of the best!

Imagine someone is saying the above words in a ‘Vassah’ accent. Then imagine it in the totally wounded and put upon voice of a 16 year old teenage child of either gender who has recently come into that adolescent moment of glory when they realize they know just everything there is to know and will brook no instruction from the ignorant aged.

For good measure you could also play it in the words of the disaffected minimum wage factory worker. This fellow, armed with his absolute adolescent omniscience, dropped out of school at 16. Now, he always vote to stick it to the rich because it is not fair that he should earn only $7.25 an hour breaking his back, standing all day on hard concrete, and generally working himself into an early grave while those ‘college joes’ get paid all kinds of big bucks for sitting at a desk and talking on the phone.

Anyone can sit at a desk and talk on the phone! (True story: I once had a relative who worked in a cotton mill say a doctor should earn no more money than he, that the doctor was no better than he, no one made him choose to go to all those years of school.)

21 MLM Training Videos (and counting…)

I mean, really. Does MLSP absolutely have to give me 21 videos of training to show me all my options, how to configure them, and some ways to use them that have resulted in a many a rep being burdened with 5 figure monthly incomes?

Could they not instead compress it down to a twenty minute montage with the appropriate inspirational background theme music…maybe ‘Eye of the Tiger’ punctuated with a tearful mother who is able to stay home with her babies, relaxing by the pool looking on with an appropriately beatific smile while the checks just roll in? If they would do that I could finish up my task list for the day and catch the latest episode of ‘The Big Bang Theory.’

I mean, it is enough to almost make you think MLSP is actually trying to give you your money’s worth!

MLM Training Will Provide Surprising Insights Into Yourself

Network marketing training will surprise you. Once you quit thinking about doing it, then you quit talking about doing it and actually DO IT, that is. A few weeks ago, I had an epiphany. I struggled over whether to write about it or not because it frankly makes me look bad. Then again, says I to myself, maybe my wrestling with stinking thinking can help you.

I was getting impatient to get everything set up, see…because ‘I wanted all my pages out there now!‘ I was in a hurry. Everything needed to be up and perfect and it needed to be so now! Right now!


I Have To and I Have To RIGHT NOW!

I had to blog. I had to get those posts syndicated. I had to set up a new auto responder. I had to get my Facebook pages setup. I need to install the popup software that Rob recommended. I had to research the costs of per click for my Facebook page. No, I did not,; I am sticking with the free leads I get. Yes, I am; I am in a hurry. No, I did not,; I am sticking with the free leads I get…

I needed to hit the boards because there is simply no substitute for interacting with and actually helping marketers with their immediate questions. 99% of these question have absolutely nothing to do with my position as an active distributor building his own teams in several businesses as well as providing generic, objective training to some very fine folks who will never be on my own personal teams. However, that help, that aid, that education, that high value…  is exactly the core product I went into business to provide.

Back and forth as I make decisions that were formerly made and proved productive, I had a very comforting realization.

MLSP More Than Gives You Your Money’s Worth

The Guru Lie: MLM Training Is Easy and Takes Just Minutes a Day

All these ‘gurus’ who lie to you and tell you they only work 15 to 30 minutes a day to build a 5 and 6 figure income lie.

I know, I know. For a single payment of $39.95 this good fellow was going to reveal to you just all the secrets of online marketing…of real estate investing,,,,or maybe tax certificate investing.

MLSP Training: Complete, Proven, Superior MLM Training

Not even a complete list...
Not even a complete list…

The information, the training, the step by step videos, the support system to help you ease past the points where maybe your attention wondered or something is misspelled and you just cannot see, to catch it…

The special deals with companies like LinkLuv and GVO designed to give the beginner a leg up…

MLSP has proven it is serious about providing value to it’s members and the track record of those members proves the training works.

Come join us and let’s get your business on the fast track to profitability and longevity.

Best Regards,







Tim Singleton